Is It ok For a Guy To Have a lot of Female Friends??
Is it really ok for a guy to have more Girl-friends than Guy-friends?
I know for myself growing up even though I played a ton of sports and
made several guy friends I never really hung out with many of them
unlike my female friends and many of them would tell you to this day
how much of a flirt I was back in high school but I think I was just
being me?
Is that really so weird people to have more friends of the opposite sex? Even today I’m a guy with more girl-friends than
guy-friends......especially in my social networking circle.
I could possibly imagine that there is probably some heavy psychological
reasons behind this imbalance, but I’d say the simple explanation is
that I get along better with female friends than my male friends?
I like to think that I approach people as people, and that I make friends
based on shared interests and how much someone can make me laugh, but
chances are that I probably surround myself with women for additional
reasons such as back in high school I was one who never really gone out
on dates and when I tried to ask any of my female friends to go out on
a date I was often times labeled into the "FRIEND ZONE" and even though
this was upsetting sometimes I would rather be friends with a female
than go out cruising for woman in a degrading and demeaning way like
many of my male friends often did from time to time in which case that
was and is not who I am as a person!
Perhaps I feel like women are more open than men and that lends itself to more trusting
friendships; perhaps I think that having female friends means that I
will have inroads to their friends, or perhaps I’ve realized that some
of the strongest romantic relationships tend to be born out of
friendships, and I want to emulate those.
Then again, perhaps I just happen to know fairly too many amazing women in my lifetime?
So let me ask you.........Why is it such a problem if a guy has lots of female friends?
Does your man have more girl-friends than guy-friends?
Do you have more guy-friends than girl-friends?
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Permalink Reply by Lyrical Beauty on -
It's so funny that you posted this because a few friends and I were just having a discussion about this yesterday on facebook. This is something that one of them had to say:
As a female we need confirmation where as our male counterparts need affirmation. As the guy in the relationship you have to confirm your ladies place in your life, not just with words but actions as well. So at some point in the relationship words and actions need to add up. How does it add up for you to say "you my lady" but have 5 or 6 other girls ringing your phone. Any classy respectable woman is not going to have several guys calling her and she entertaining all of them while in a serious committed relationship. We as women want the same respect.
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Permalink Reply by Michigan's Finest on -
Thanks for responding Lyrical and I do hear you my friend! It is a slippery slope when one deals with the confirmations as opposed to affirmation of a relationship and respect is the bottom line and key here when everyone knows where the boundaries lie in any committed relationship!
On another side not you're on facebook huh you should look me up over there! Check my page for my link;)
Lyrical Beauty said:It's so funny that you posted this because a few friends and I were just having a discussion about this yesterday on facebook. This is something that one of them had to say:
As a female we need confirmation where as our male counterparts need affirmation. As the guy in the relationship you have to confirm your ladies place in your life, not just with words but actions as well. So at some point in the relationship words and actions need to add up. How does it add up for you to say "you my lady" but have 5 or 6 other girls ringing your phone. Any classy respectable woman is not going to have several guys calling her and she entertaining all of them while in a serious committed relationship. We as women want the same respect.
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Permalink Reply by LatinTemptress on -
of course its okay! I have more male friends than girlfriends because I do get along better with men. It is what it is.
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Permalink Reply by Bam on -
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Permalink Reply by PrincefromQueens on -
its all good but it would still depend on the genuine intentions or expectations of both the male and the female friends in these relationships....cause I'm going on the notion that this said male (or female) with all the female (or male) friends is a man (woman) in a relationship why you ask if it's ok....cause if he's single then aint no limit to who or how many you can be friends with....
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