Do White Women Approach Men Better Than Black Women? In My Case They Do For Some Reason??
Do White women approach Black men better than Black women do? One thing that most people believe is that white women are more aggressive when it comes to letting a man know they’re interested. How is this so?
Apparently, white women have perfected the art of making the first move. Remember Big Mama aka your grandma and how they taught younger generations of Black women that it’s unladylike to go after a man?
Correct me if I am wrong… White women don’t have Big Mamas so they are like barracudas when it comes to getting their man. The thing with white women is that when they think they like some guy, no time is wasted. She will be all up in his face, to get his attention.
Well, I find it to be a major turn on when a woman leaves the guesswork out of who likes who. On the other hand when a Black woman likes a dude, she telepathically sends him a message (you know how we men are pathetic with reading-between-the-lines kind of messages… we almost never get them).
Most Black men I have had the chance to talk to say that when they talk to a White woman, in the first five minutes, they can tell that she’s looking for a man and if she’s interested in him. But when a brother talks to a Black woman, in the first five minutes he discovers that she’s looking for a certain kind of man. Get the difference?
I must admit that we all have standards we have to live up to. Much as there are white women that have a rep of scouting out talented black athletes, there are some White women who give a Black man a chance that Black women wouldn’t give a second look.
How many times have you seen an interracial couple walking hand in hand and you said. “She can have him”?
Most of my Black female friends don’t like the sight of a good looking brother anywhere with a White woman. So why this obsession with the outwards as opposed to the inside?
It's important when at a social gathering, to have a good time and take the initiative to meet two new people before they go home. Black guys do it. White girls definitely do it.
Much as Big mama said it ain't right, that shouldn’t hold us back from being polite to someone new, even when we’re not interested. You never know, that person could later introduce you to someone who may introduce you to another someone. And just because you have made the first move doesn’t make you a slut. It shows confidence and how you got your sh** together!
I think one thing we all have to realize is that love is out there. Stop looking for it in the wrong places. Stop looking for the picture perfect dude. Stop looking for that perfect female. White women are not out to swipe the whole entire community of Black men.
Maybe they are just looking for love in all the right places. Enough with the judging.
Don’t let love pass you right under your nose. Who knows, I could be your Mr. Right.
Apparently, white women have perfected the art of making the first move. Remember Big Mama aka your grandma and how they taught younger generations of Black women that it’s unladylike to go after a man?
Correct me if I am wrong… White women don’t have Big Mamas so they are like barracudas when it comes to getting their man. The thing with white women is that when they think they like some guy, no time is wasted. She will be all up in his face, to get his attention.
Well, I find it to be a major turn on when a woman leaves the guesswork out of who likes who. On the other hand when a Black woman likes a dude, she telepathically sends him a message (you know how we men are pathetic with reading-between-the-lines kind of messages… we almost never get them).
Most Black men I have had the chance to talk to say that when they talk to a White woman, in the first five minutes, they can tell that she’s looking for a man and if she’s interested in him. But when a brother talks to a Black woman, in the first five minutes he discovers that she’s looking for a certain kind of man. Get the difference?
I must admit that we all have standards we have to live up to. Much as there are white women that have a rep of scouting out talented black athletes, there are some White women who give a Black man a chance that Black women wouldn’t give a second look.
How many times have you seen an interracial couple walking hand in hand and you said. “She can have him”?
Most of my Black female friends don’t like the sight of a good looking brother anywhere with a White woman. So why this obsession with the outwards as opposed to the inside?
It's important when at a social gathering, to have a good time and take the initiative to meet two new people before they go home. Black guys do it. White girls definitely do it.
Much as Big mama said it ain't right, that shouldn’t hold us back from being polite to someone new, even when we’re not interested. You never know, that person could later introduce you to someone who may introduce you to another someone. And just because you have made the first move doesn’t make you a slut. It shows confidence and how you got your sh** together!
I think one thing we all have to realize is that love is out there. Stop looking for it in the wrong places. Stop looking for the picture perfect dude. Stop looking for that perfect female. White women are not out to swipe the whole entire community of Black men.
Maybe they are just looking for love in all the right places. Enough with the judging.
Don’t let love pass you right under your nose. Who knows, I could be your Mr. Right.
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Permalink Reply by Miss New York on -
Great post Michigan!!!! Me, personally, I wouldn't say it's their approach, it's more that they know what they want and are not afraid to go after it, and in all fairness, there are sistas out there who are just as aggressive, and in some cases, even more. I also have to co-sign with you...we, unfortunately are looking for love in all the wrong places and we end up payig for it in the end. The perfect wo/man DOES NOT exist. If s/he did, then the fairy tale would be in full effect and there would be no divorce. I also have no objection with seeing a black man with a white woman. My dad parents were an interracial couple (he was black and she was white), plus my step-mother is white...Irish Catholic, and we love and respect her with the same level of love and respect we have for our own birth-mother. Bottom line, love is out there, and where you choose to find it makes a great deal of difference between happiness and misery, and color shouldn't be an issue.
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Permalink Reply by Lac on -
I've never been approached by a sista. Not that I can remember. The only white girl that approached me was when I was in high school. So i don't know.
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Permalink Reply by Michigan's Finest on
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lol..Fem it's all good my friend and I wouldn't be me if I didn't come correct and bring it like I do to the Hood! I for one am not turned off by an aggressive woman because that just lets me know that she is feeling me like I am feeling her! I have mad love for you as well and I look forward to the day when I can reconnect with my fun loving sisters again but as for right now I am maintaining my no relationship status to just do me but this is what i've seen happen to me when there have been more white woman step to me than my Black sistas!!
Fembeauty said:Lemme just say this (in the most loving way)
OH NO YOU DIDN'T!!!!!
What is this talk of sistas NOT stepping to a guy? Perhaps it has more to do with a woman's individual level of aggression more than anything else. I have ALWAYS stepped to the guy and I am a sista. I consider myself to be on the aggressive side though. Some people believe that the way you begin a relationship determines the course of the relationship so perhaps the sistas that you and your brethren refer to are attracted to or are looking for a more aggressive man. Now, from what I have seen in my area, women ARE aggressive towards men. I have seen women befriend people JUST to get close to a man. I have seen women do all kinds of things to get close or to get in contact with a man. I am not saying it's a good thing but I am saying that I have seen acts that appear to be pretty aggressive- now whether it is considered game playing depends on who you ask. Let me ask this...... are men turned off by aggressive women? Because if so, maybe that's why the women are waiting for the man to step.
Let me also say this, when it comes to conversation with a man, I really don't see anything wrong with a woman telling a man what she is looking for. No sense in wasting time pretending to be interested in something that is not what said woman is looking for. Not fair to either party. I mean,if she was just looking for a friend, that's one thing but if she is looking for a provider or a complimentary partner, I really don't see anything wrong with being upfront. Don't men look for women that cook, clean, are good with children, and manage to stay wet and physically fit? What's so wrong with women searching for that commitment minded man who is good with his hands and has ambition and drive to move after what he wants? Perhaps what is on trial here is the sense of urgency or intensity that may be coming out when said woman speaks- you know,skipping past the fluff and getting straight to the point? I'm just saying. Fellas, lemme know what's good on this one because I am feeling some type of way bout this one right here-and Mich you know I have love for you - and let me be clear, I love to see my people together and duplicating dem genes but I also believe that love is love no matter where you find it.
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Thanks and much appreciated Fem!!
Fembeauty said:by the way Mich...............
I just LOVE your posts!!!!! Very involving. Good stuff.
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Thanks New York and I agree with your thoughts 100% and it should not matter at all what love is and the color!
Miss New York said:Great post Michigan!!!! Me, personally, I wouldn't say it's their approach, it's more that they know what they want and are not afraid to go after it, and in all fairness, there are sistas out there who are just as aggressive, and in some cases, even more. I also have to co-sign with you...we, unfortunately are looking for love in all the wrong places and we end up payig for it in the end. The perfect wo/man DOES NOT exist. If s/he did, then the fairy tale would be in full effect and there would be no divorce. I also have no objection with seeing a black man with a white woman. My dad parents were an interracial couple (he was black and she was white), plus my step-mother is white...Irish Catholic, and we love and respect her with the same level of love and respect we have for our own birth-mother. Bottom line, love is out there, and where you choose to find it makes a great deal of difference between happiness and misery, and color shouldn't be an issue.
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It may be a regional thing Lac so as it goes?
Lac said:I've never been approached by a sista. Not that I can remember. The only white girl that approached me was when I was in high school. So i don't know.
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Permalink Reply by LatinTemptress on -
I am not Black and I am not White, I am Latina and I am aggressive when it comes to what I want. Nuff said.
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Amen to that Ana!!!
LatinTemptress said:I am not Black and I am not White, I am Latina and I am aggressive when it comes to what I want. Nuff said.
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Permalink Reply by LatinTemptress on
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;-P
Michigan's Finest said:Amen to that Ana!!!
LatinTemptress said:I am not Black and I am not White, I am Latina and I am aggressive when it comes to what I want. Nuff said.
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Ana you've know me for a good while now so you know I have mad luv for my Latin, Hispanic, South American and Puerto Rican Women;)
LatinTemptress said:;-P
Michigan's Finest said:Amen to that Ana!!!
LatinTemptress said:I am not Black and I am not White, I am Latina and I am aggressive when it comes to what I want. Nuff said.
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