As Promised The Cougar Issue Revisted For Miss New York!!
In response to my other forum post regarding " Can Men over 40 keep up with Women over 40?"
More and more women are embracing the cougar within, finding in the label both the humor and a sense of empowerment. Just as many others find the term demeaning and reject it as sexist or,
at best, another unfortunate example of society's sexual double
standard.
Here is a general idea of what it means to be the type of woman considered by society standards to be a Cougar. Some woman may
feel that even though they may or may not be over the age of 40 that
they do have some if not all of these qualities to be considered this
type of lady!
She's in Control
First and foremost, the cougar woman is in total control - of her life, her
sexuality and her identity. She's her own woman, independent, strong
and sexy, confident in her self and unconcerned by what is expected of
her by society. It's that fearless attitude that makes a cougar.
She's Independent
A cougar is not just independent-minded, she's personally independent as
well. She is likely a career women who has reached a comfortable level
of financial freedom. She's worked hard and fought for her success.
She's found that while men her age and older are often intimidated by
her ambition and success, young men are drawn to it and hopeful to
learn from it.
Her independence extends to relationships where she has no time for petty drama. She's comfortable letting a
relationship develop naturally rather than trying to force it. She
knows a relationship takes work but also understands that one can't be
made into something it isn't.
She's Experienced
Let's face it: the cougar is experienced. She's more sophisticated and
worldly than her younger counterparts. She's worked hard, played hard
and really lived. Her experience has resulted in one simple truth: She
knows what she wants.
Her experience is particularly profound in the bedroom. To a young man she’s a living, breathing Kama Sutra,
versed in the ways of pleasure. To be with her is an orientation into
an unexplored world of contortionist positions, hidden erogenous zones,
and foreign animal noises. She knows what she likes, how she likes it
done and where, and instructs her cub on how best to give it. A night
with her and he will uncover the secrets of making a woman beg for
more. All men want those secrets and they know no amount of fumbling
about with inexperienced girls will ever provide them.
She's Undeniably Sexy
There's just something about a cougar. Whether she's the type that rocks a
business suit or tight top and jeans, she just exudes sexual power.
It's not something you can quantify or categorize. You can only feel
it.
A cougar knows that age is increasingly irrelevant. 40 is the new 30. 50, the new 40. Healthier lifestyles, a greater commitment
to fitness and an emphasis on style, have all contributed to something
young men have picked up on. Older women are smoking. The popularity of
yoga, pilates, unique diets and other health and fitness fads have
cougars looking hotter and more attractive longer. In fact, the older
she gets, the more delicious she becomes. Her toned body and and smooth
skin coalesce with an earned stately grace to create a sort of sexual
super woman.
She Likes the Attention
A cougar is quick to admit that when a young man expresses interest in her it
makes her feel great, whether she's into the guy or not. And why not?
It validates all of the hard work she's put in to looking hot and
staying young. It proves that she's still got it.
She also revels in the fact that other women are often jealous of her,
particularly younger women. The cattiness of the young woman is just
further validation that she, the cougar, is what men want. They want a
piece of her sass, her experience.
She's Down with the Program
Lastly, and perhaps most importantly, a cougar is proud to be a cougar. She
wears the label as a badge of honor. She recognizes that it is
tongue-in-cheek, but also finds it empowering. It's both fun and sexy.
And maybe she even likes the feistyness it suggests.
So does any of these statements make you Cougar material in the general sesne of the word....ladies?
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Permalink Reply by Miss New York on -
My king Michigan...you hit the nail DEAD ON THE HEAD!!! One thing you also forgot to mention about a cougar...there are a select few of us who actually enjoy the company of a younger man over an older man or a man in our age bracket, simply because there are times when we just don't feel like holding a conversation. We just want to get the party started and we know that there are moments where the younger man usually doesn't have much to say about anything, and that's suits us just fine. .
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Permalink Reply by LatinTemptress on -
^5!
Miss New York said:My king Michigan...you hit the nail DEAD ON THE HEAD!!! One thing you also forgot to mention about a cougar...there are a select few of us who actually enjoy the company of a younger man over an older man or a man in our age bracket, simply because there are times when we just don't feel like holding a conversation. We just want to get the party started and we know that there are moments where the younger man usually doesn't have much to say about anything, and that's suits us just fine. .
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Beyonce Preps TWO New Projects (Including New Album) For 2012
One of Beyonce's producers just spilled the beans that the new mom is--unsurprisingly--gearing up for her fifth solo studio album. Plus, she's got a second project up her sleeve for 2012. Deets inside...
Told y'all this chick was planning album content while she was breastfeeding and changing diapers. Baby Blue's mom is said to be already setting up to work on a new album. And yes, B.I.C. will likely be her muse. Producer/Songwriter Ryan Tedder, who just copped an award at last night's GRAMMYS for contributing to Adele's Album of the Year, 21, revealed some generalities.
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Here we go...
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Are you coming back to Fashion Week this time?
I’m not impressed to be in that world. I’m in my own world. I think sometimes the fashion world isn’t even about clothes anymore; it’s about this “in” crowd, and I’m not into that. But I’m doing a Barbie fashion show. They did a Barbie for me, and that is super friggin’ amazing.So is it safe to assume that you were always interested in fashion?
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Here's the rest of her pics:
And if you're still scratching your head about her performance last night at the GRAMMY Awards--you're not the only one.
She talked to Ryan Seacrest today on his radio show and revealed a few things:
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Feel like we're listening to a 12-year-old during a tea party with her imaginary friends. But if that's what works...
Here's the audio in full:
Peep Nicki's performance from last night HERE in case you missed it.
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